How resilient are you? Resilience is the ability to endure hardships. Stressful, traumatic, and generally negative events are inevitably part of our experience, but our ability to endure these impermanent events is what we call resilience.
Lately, resilience is a popular topic in the media and the focus of many studies. The New York Times published an article recently called “How People Learn to Become Resilient” with the central idea that resilience is learned behaviour. For one, how we respond to a negative situation in our lives will relate to how quickly we bounce back.
With this in mind, here are 6 tips on how to boost your resilience in the face of adversity:
- Understand that the negative event you are currently facing is an isolated one, not an indication of your life or yourself, as a human being.
- Recognize what you can change about the situation and acknowledge when you need to let go of control. Taking charge over the things that you can control will motivate you, lead to better well-being, and results. While ruminating on the aspects that are out of your control, will only bring you down.
- Give yourself regular boosts through positive self-talk. Tell yourself that you have the skills to face this situation, rather than beat yourself about the things you can’t accomplish.
- Even if at first your response to the situation is negative, make an effort to re-frame the event in positive terms: what have you learned from this challenge and how have you grown from the experience?
- Make sure to take care of yourself. Get a good night’s sleep; practice your mindfulness; try some breathing exercises. According to this article, resilience is dependent on how well you restore yourself.
- Reach out to others when you need to talk about the situation. Getting the support you need through your circle of friends or with a professional counselor is not an indication that you aren’t fit to cope, it means that you allow yourself time to process the event so that you can return to your happy self more quickly.
Do you have any tips that have worked for you? Tell us about them in the comment section.