‘Getting to Yes with Yourself’ by William Ury (HarperCollins, 2015)
William Ury was co-author of the well-known ‘Getting to Yes’ (also reviewed previously HERE) and co-founder of the Harvard Negotiation Project.
The basic premise of the book is that:” the better we are able to get to yes with ourselves, the better we will be able to get to yes with others”
There are 3 main strategies to be aware of:
- the biggest obstacle to successful agreements is ourselves, our tendency to react in ways that do not serve our best interest
- avoid reacting: learn to observe yourself inside, as if you were in a theatre observing the drama of your life unfold from the balcony
- develop your inner BATNA (Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement). Make a commitment to yourself to take care of your needs independently of what the other does or does not do
Developing your inner peace is the first step to being at peace with others
If you follow the above advice, and read this fascinating and timely book, you will be well on your way to creating peace in your life and enjoy satisfying relationships at home, at work, and in the community.