“Don’t be ashamed to weep; ’tis right to grieve. Tears are only water, and flowers, trees, and fruit cannot grow without water. But there must be sunlight also. A wounded heart will heal in time, and when it does, the memory and love of our lost ones is sealed inside to comfort us.”
― Brian Jacques
When we are in crisis mode, we can often stuff our feelings as a coping mechanism while we get through the challenge at hand. If our loved one’s illness is prolonged, the crisis can continue for a long time without a chance for the caregiver to release those emotions.
Our feelings can be difficult and uncomfortable to process, but it is important to honour your feelings by creating space to release them.
Here are 4 questions to ask yourself in order to release emotions
- What am I feeling? Check in with this basic question throughout the day. If you have a history of avoiding emotions, you may find it helpful to look at a list of possible emotions to see what resonates with you.
- Why do I feel this way? If you are currently dealing with a challenging situation, you may not know exactly what is triggering your emotion. By digging a little deeper, you might recognize that your anger is stemming from a boundary that has was crossed, or you are feeling sad because you didn’t get the support from a loved one that you expected.
- How will I honour my feelings? Honouring your feelings can take many forms. It can be solely about allowing yourself to feel the emotion without judging yourself. Or, it can be about expressing your feeling to another person when we want to address an issue.
- What can I do to take care of myself? When we release emotions, it is important to practice self-care. We can take care of ourselves by allowing ourselves some healthy comforts (like a hot cup of tea and Netflix), or we can make an appointment with a counselor when we are needing some extra support.
Take a moment to go through these four questions. Not only can releasing emotions benefit your own well-being, but it provides a chance to really get to know yourself.