by VG
A counsellor I know told me about an app for my phone that I have found extremely helpful in reminding me about many of the virtues we, as human beings, can be grateful for. In fact, it’s called ‘Virtues Reflections’.
It’s set up as a deck of cards where each card refers to an individual virtue. One side of the ‘card’ offers a paragraph on the specific virtue (ie: Kindness, Forgiveness, Hope); then you click the circular arrows at the bottom & it flips the ‘card’ and gives you a quote around that virtue as well as a few lines on practicing it. Lastly, it reminds you about why you can be thankful for this virtue. It only takes a minute or two to read and reflect on each one, and I have found that even one a day can be restorative when I need a reminder.
Over the next while, I will share some of these and my hope is you’ll take that minute or two to read them and take them to heart as well. I believe, for caregivers, those in bereavement, and people supporting friends or loved ones through traumatic experiences, these are like a brief meditation on positivity and they shine a light on the beauty of the human condition. For example, my previous blog post was on Empathy.
https://www.virtuesproject.com/store/virtues-reflection-cards
Today’s Virtue: Compassion:
“Compassion is deep empathy for another who is suffering or living with misfortune. It is understanding and caring, and a strong desire to ease their distress. Compassion flows freely from our hearts when we let go of judgements and seek to understand. Our compassionate presence helps people to know they are not alone. Sometimes they don’t need us to fix anything. They only need to be heard with compassion, so that they can connect to their own inner wisdom. We need our own compassion as much as others do. Whether a silent prayer or a gentle touch, compassion is a priceless gift”
On the back of the ‘Compassion card’, there’s a quote:
“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion”
– The Dalai Lama
The Practice of Compassion:
I notice when someone is hurt or needs a friend.
I feel empathy for the pain of others.
I take time to reach out to those who need help.
I care for others by listening deeply.
I refrain from judging.
I have compassion for myself.
… and lastly: I am thankful for the gift of Compassion. It stirs my heart.
Take care of yourselves. Catherine should be back next week with Advance Care Plans – Part 2,
Vic G. ’22