Although you may be silent and seated while working in an office environment, it can often be a place where practicing mindfulness gets forgotten. Between the hustle of co-workers, overhearing other conversations, flashing screens, ringing phones, printers and copiers… it can be hard to feel calm.
This is a review of the book: “Boundaries: When to say yes, How to say No To Take Control of Your Life” available at the Caregiver’s Library, North Shore Community Resources office.
The authors begin by defining boundaries: a sense of knowing when I end and you begin. They use the metaphor of house property: what is inside your “property” is yours, and what is outside your property remains outside.
The book is written from a Christian perspective, with Bible quotes throughout.
Authors Cloud and Townsend quote the Serenity Prayer:
“God grant me serenity, to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
Finally the authors quote the Golden Rule : “Love your neighbour as yourself” as being a central part of boundary setting.
Would you like to learn more about boundaries? Try this Wikipedia article
A good read, even if you are not religious.
Someone told me today that saying, “No,” can be an act of mindfulness.
When someone needs help, or when you’re presented with exciting plans or a new opportunity, people often respond with an enthusiastic, “Yes!” without thinking about it too much. You want to help the person that needs you, you want to be included in the plans, and you don’t want to pass up a new opportunity. Opening yourself up to a new task, plan, or opportunity can be extremely gratifying and rewarding if you have the time and energy to truly commit and enjoy what you are doing. However, if you are stretched thin and not taking care of yourself in the best way you can, these extra tasks and opportunities could add a great deal of stress to your life.
The next time you are asked for help, presented with plans or a new opportunity, try taking some time before making a decision. Let the person know that you need to check your calendar first or simply ask for a day to get back to them. This extra time will give you a chance to really look at your day/week/month/life and ask yourself if you truly have the time and energy to commit to what’s being asked of you. If you’re having trouble deciding, here are some questions you can ask yourself that might give you some clarity.
How have I been feeling on a day to day basis? Stressed? Frustrated? Tired?
Have I been taking the time to exercise, eat well, and cook?
Have I been taking time in my life to do the things I love?
Have I had time to enjoy being with friends and family?
If the answers to many of these questions is yes, you might want to consider saying no to taking on something else. Perhaps this is a good time to look at your schedule and see how you can adjust things so you can take better care of yourself and enjoy your days more. Remember, “Take care of yourself first or you will have nothing left to give others.”
The 55+ BC Games are happening August 25th – 29th!
Alive Inside is a fantastic documentary about the power of music to “reawaken our souls and uncover the deepest parts of our humanity.”
Some tips for caring for a loved one in the middle stages of Alzheimer’s.
On Saturday, August 22nd, Lower Lonsdale will be shut down for Car Free Day and Slide the City – a giant water slide running down the whole street! Stop by to watch people slide, listen to live music and maybe get a bite to eat.
Why not treat yourself to a facial massage today?
As quoted in the Family Caregivers Network Society Caregivers Wellness Booklet
“Staying well is one of the most important things that you can do for both yourself and for those for whom you provide care.”
Download the free Caregivers Wellness Booklet.
Everyday resilience: Asking for Help. A great article on a tough subject.
Norgate Community Day is happening tomorrow, Saturday, August 15th! 10AM-2PM. 1295 Sowden Street in North Vancouver.
Four books that will inspire you to bake and preserve all the beautiful fruits and vegetables that are popping up right now!
Cucumber Avocado Chilled Soup
Since it’s been scorching HOT in the Vancouver area, what better idea than to cool down with a delicious bowl of cold soup? I am looking forward to making this recipe very soon :)- –K Davies
- 2 avocados
- 3 cups plain almond milk
- 2 hot house cucumbers, unpeeled, seeded, and chopped
- 1/2 cup chopped red onion
- 6 scallions, white and green parts, chopped
- 2 teaspoons kosher salt
- 1 1/2 teaspoons freshly ground black pepper
- 3 tablespoons chopped fresh dill
- 1/2 cup freshly squeezed lemon juice (4 lemons)
- 1 teaspoon fresh horseradish
- thinly slices of lemon, halved, for garnish
- fresh dill, for garnish
- In a large mixing bowl, stir together the almond milk, avocado, cucumbers, red onion, scallions, horseradish salt, and pepper.
- Transfer the mixture in batches to the bowl of a food processor fitted with the steel blade. Or use an immersion blender.
- Process until the cucumbers are coarsely pureed. Fold in the dill, cover with plastic wrap, and refrigerate for at least 2 hours, until very cold.
- Just before serving, stir in the lemon juice. Serve chilled, garnished with the lemon, and fresh dill.
Recipe sourced from www.soupmistress.com -Shannon Yelland