“Words can make you sick. And heavy. And dark.
Words can make you light. And radiant. And energized.”
Recently, I came across a blog post by author and inspirational speaker, Danielle LaPorte, about an experiment she conducted at home to teach her child the importance of self-talk. The experiment was simple; she cut an apple in half and for a period of time, her family talked positively to one half, and negatively to the other half. After roughly a month, she said, the apple that they had been talking negatively to was brown and rotting. The other half that they talked positively to was still relatively preserved.
The apple experiment has been conducted by many people with similar results. Inspired by the research of Dr. Masaru Emoto, where he froze different water samples that had been exposed to both positive and negative talk to examine the structural difference in the crystal formations.
Besides these experiments though, the only real proof in the power of positive and negative self-talk is the way you feel.
Negative self-talk can take many forms. For one, negative self-talk could be refusing to acknowledge the positive aspects of an experience you have had, or even viewing things in black and white, rather than the grey area.
Another form is catastrophizing, where a person imagines the worst possible outcome–a common habit for those prone to anxiety.
Negative self-talk is a habit that you can break. When you become aware of your own negative self-talk, start to challenge that behavior by saying the opposite. If you think: “I can’t do this!, challenge that statement by saying: I will find a way to make this happen.”
One easy indicator for how you should talk to yourself is to observe how you encourage, support, and show love to those closest to you.
It is perfectly acceptable to treat yourself in the same way as you do your loved ones.
What do you notice about your own self-talk? We’d love to hear from you in the comment section.